* Put your spouse and children first
No one will send you to the divorce court faster than in-law drama. I know you want everyone to get along, but understand that you are not responsible for the mother, father or brother of happiness. Your primary responsibility is to keep your home. If parents and your siblings can not be with this program, be prepared to take leave of them until they have learned to appreciate you and your partner. If something in them forbade them to do, remain loyal to the people who really important and you need to. If you really want a successful marriage, sometimes you have to learn to love from afar.

* Do not ever disrespect your home
You already know you hated the husband / wife, so that will stop them and talk behind her back when you two fight. One, it only makes your family hates your partner even more and two, your marriage is on the wrong track if you pour salt on the other important people. In addition, your home still has no home with the wrong people come and go. This is bad for any relationship, married or not. Keep the drama queen / king out of the house, they were just looking to start trouble.