10. Dig into the ground. Emotional investment relationships, their nature, bring trials, tribulations, fears, chaos, chaos, change, stretching and growth. They become the grist of your life shaped and formed. Be fearless when faced with turmoil, upset, crisis, questions, and fears. When the time is right, seek them out. Move toward a frightening unknown. Digging your relationship and uncover the treasure. Do you really TRUST that this can happen? The purpose of your relationship is not to make you happy. Do you realize this? Happiness may be an outcome, but your other is given to you to move you to where you really want. Obstacles, trials and pain moments are given as a lesson that you intentionally write the script of your life individually and together. Embracing difficult. Believe that in this embracing you will find more of your true self. Believe that you are given the resources and capacity to deal with what you and your spouse is the other face. Once you can trust and believe in this goal, trust your significant other will be much easier.