8. Learn to say NO! Sometimes you need to say NO! Often times it is important to say NO! Say NO to set limits around you that protects you from being hurt or wander into the territories that will damage your heart and soul. You draw the line. You stop tolerating that which drains energy and makes you less than YOU. You refuse to allow the destructive behaviors of others to destroy you. You build a moat around the core of your life. You do this by telling others about what they do. You ask them to stop. If they do not stop, you need to get them to stop. If they do not stop you walk away without comment cynical, eye-roll or comment. To some this seems harsh, but saying NO respect. Fear is a basic distrust. If you are afraid that someone will hurt you and believe you have no recourse but to endure the hurt, fear will prevail. How can you trust when you are in fear? Say NO, protecting yourself, send a message to others that you are not going to live in fear. This usually triggers a response of respect from others. After all, if you can protect yourself and refuse subjugation to a destructive, not someone else will come to trust you and see you as a person who is only able to protect himself or of danger, too?