2. Spying on cheating husbands or cheating wives often helps people feel connected with a partner who is likely to continue to move away. This is a way to maintain contact and have some sort of relationship with this stranger who was once famous. Is not that like a game of hide and seek we used to play as a child? Sometimes there, sometimes gone. At least it is a game, and play at least some contact, some involvement. You lose the relationship and try to find somehow to maintain ties.

3. Spying on a cheating spouse may be an honest attempt to bring resolution of the relationship. You want to know the truth. You feel something is not right. You suspect there is a breach of something. You want to know what you are facing. You are not willing to stand pat and wait. You are an action. You want some kind of movement. You want to continue the relationship. You want to get your life. You know that it is difficult maintaining your sanity when there might be this huge elephant that no one is talking about. You want to know the truth, face the truth, deal with the truth and freedom.