Looks like you made some good steps. Seek help from the books and the Internet is a great idea. However, I suggest that if you do not seek professional counseling or training now - do it! Go with someone you trust to get your mind this difficult time. Even if you only do it at first, it was good to start with someone who can provide objective and approach and help you solve some problems.

In the end, you and your husband will need to determine whether renewal of your commitment to work. Each of you will have to make a conscious choice to work in making your relationship better. You both need to make your marriage a priority, above even treat your child (ren).

Despite what many people think, love is not a feeling, that decision. I once heard a saying: “Marriage is like a pet snake, you should feed every day or bad things will happen.” If your husband will change, positive action towards a better make your wedding will be evident. Words that keep the eyes and heart open.